Formally, I quit my job after spring break. It was both terrifying, but also a huge mental relief at the same time. I had no idea if things were going to work out. But at the same time, I knew for my mental health it needed to be done. Would I have to look for a new job? Would there be any problems? I had no clue.
Overall, it was a huge decision to make for us, but it was one we both knew would benefit not only me, but our children as well. They’d have a mom, thats home, and present. And lets face it, some women are much better at keeping a house and a routine than men, not because men can’t but because some men were just meant for the workforce. And our house is one where it just runs much smoother when I’m able to stay home.
With the knowledge I learned from working in the preschool field as long as it did, has benefited me in ways I would not have expected as a homemaker. Schedules, but also being flexible if something changes that schedule. The importance of sensory play, but not too much sensory play. And the biggest one of all- patience. Things as a one income household doesn’t always go according to plan. And there’s gonna be some stumbles while you gain your traction. This is where communication with the partner who is still working is important.
For a while I just kinda stumbled through my days, not having a set routine or schedule to keep. I learned the hard way that a schedule and routine are very important to running a successful home (and homestead!) I’ve learned that if your able to prepare the next day a day or two in advance, it will help ensure that nothing gets forgotten. I always keep a notebook nearby, and it has notes for the day ahead, weather it be a grocery list, or an errand list.
I’ve also learned that anything I need to do that requires me leaving Dani with Daniel, or a babysitter, HAS to be done within the hour. After an hour, Miss Dani seems to get anxiety and becomes inconsolable. This tells me that at least right now, going back to work can’t happen. The last thing I want is for my baby to be inconsolable and unhappy for 7 hours. Will it pass? Oh sure. I’ve witnessed it as a teacher, every year. But neither of my other two kids had quite this degree of separation anxiety, so for now, my place is at home.